The loss of innocence or is it just bad outside world influence?

kids saying bad words had been around for a while.
kids saying bad words had been around for a while.

I am an extremely over protective mother to my children.  I have done everything I can to preserve their innocence and make sure they get to remain children for as long as they should.  Cartoons, playing outside, eating breakfast for dinner, ice cream for good doctor visits, camping you name it.  I want my children to look back at their childhood and smile.

I do my best to make sure the older one doesn’t hear to many curse words, we don’t listen to hip hop, and now we can barely listen to the pop station.  I make sure he doesn’t play violent games, see to many violent movies except the marvel movies, I’m 100% guilty on all counts:)  I make sure that he doesn’t see any overly sexual stuff as much as I can control.  That is all that things that I can do within my control.  I try to be a great example.  Sometimes I fail.  My son learned the F word when a car was doing some serious unsafe driving and almost hit me.  It’ happens.  I explained to him that I used a bad word and he is not to say.

We recently moved and I am now learning everything is not in MY control.  My kid has to go out into the world and be able to deal with what’s out there.  That is a scary, scary, thought.  He is in a new school and we have both learned some hard lessons in the first week of school.

On day two of school I get a note from his teacher wanting to talk to me about my son’s “very adult” language.  I was baffled and called her immediately.  Turns out that on that day he has learned “pu$$y”, the phrase “put it in”, “ass” and phrases regarding sex.  Needless to say I was literally speechless.  I was stuttering on the phone.  My son doesn’t know those words was all I could say when I got my composure back.  I was furious!!  I asked him about it and he was in tears saying “mommy, I don’t even know what that means!!!!!!!!!!!!”  I was obviously not going to explain “pu$$y” to him or “put it in”.  I did explain that if he didn’t know what a word meant she should absolutely not repeat it ever.  If he has a question and really wants an answer he is to ask me or his dad.  I realized that he was getting the new kid treatment.  The bad kids in his class figured out he had no idea what these words were and were telling him to say those things.  Of course he did.

After I got over the shock of everything I thought about how I try to protect my kid and how he really has no idea what these kids are talking about.  I began to feel sad for those kids especially if they know what those words mean.  It is natural to say curse words when you are a kid.  You do it to get a reaction.  I get it.  My problem is if those kids know what “pu$$y” is and the proper usage of it.  Why does a 6 year old even know the phrase “put it in”???  Why????  My goodness what is going on that he/she knows that.  That is disheartening to me.  That kid should be talking about teen titans go, or my little pony, not sex!

I realize that as much as I try to do for my kid, that is not enough.  Everyone’s kid is my problem.  I want to hug all of those kids and just give them a cartoon marathon with ice cream.  That wouldn’t really help if their home life was not one where they could simply BE children.  I’m just so sad that kids even have to know about sex at that age.  IF they do in fact know what those words mean.  The truth is that there are kids dealing with things at home that I wouldn’t wish on my worse adult enemy.  There are kids that have older siblings/cousins and that think it’s cute to teach their younger family members those things.  Or, there are some kids that just happen to be at the wrong place at the wrong time and hear some things they shouldn’t have.  For all of our sake I hope the latter is the case.

For now, I will be watching like a hawk.   I will sit in on class next week to see what is going on in that class and better teach my son how to react.  Right now he is learning that he has to think and most importantly never follow.  Always lead.

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Dreamworks Home

Dreamworks Home hits theaters March 27th!
Dreamworks Home hits theaters March 27th!

Yesterday the kids and I had the privilege of going to an advanced screening of the Dreamorks film Home.  The movie stars Rihanna, Jim Parsons, Steve Martin, and Jennifer Lopez.  My son has been asking to go see it ever since he saw the first trailor, I was totally sucked in at small purple aliens.  When I got the invitation to the screening I was very tight lipped about it.  I inteded on making a huge production out of our day but it was a Tuesdsay and I was sleepy.  What I could do was hold the screening hostage as a behavior reward all week.  All he knew is that he had a surprise in which he got to leave the house lol.

Cast of Home
Cast of Home

When we got the movies a man gave us the background on the film and welcomed us to the screening.  He used a very loud microphone which caused my 3 month old to go into a complete panic.  I have never heard my child scream like that before. She was so scared, I had to check her to make sure she wasn’t hurt!  I immediately left the theater to calm her down and wait for the man to finish.  Even tho I know I have a very well behaved baby and she was crying because she was scared, the rest of the movie goes were looking at me like i was “that mom” with “that baby”.  Luckily she calmed down shortly after we exited the theater.

our attempted "usie"
our attempted “usie”

We got back in just in time for the movie to start.  I couldn’t wear my 3D glasses until she went to sleep because she kept looking at me crazy.  I figured some boobie juice would help the situation, so I fed her.  After that she went to sleep and her brother and I got to enjoy the movie!

The Boov!
The Boov!

Home was excellent!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I love the message in the movie, I am such of fan of teaching without beating the message into you.  The music was pretty awesome as well, I guess that is to be expected with Rihanna and Jennifer Lopez staring in the movie.  I also very much loved the look of the characters.  They were not uber skinny girls.  Tip looks like most of your average looking children.  I also loved that she didn’t have a specific ethnic look.  Even tho she says she is from Barbados in the movie she could easily be a mixture of other ethnicities.  What a refreshing departure from the Disney princesses.

high hand touching!
high hand touching!

Home is an awesome family movie,  I am significantly older than my son lol, and I thoroughly enjoyed it and so did he!  We both want our own personal boovs to have and to hold.  We will ask santa for one!

Meatless Mondadys – Pansotti Stuffed Ricotta & Spinach in Walnut Sauce edition.

I saw this recipe on the Meatleass Mondays site and I drooled!  I’m just a tad angry because I just left Chicago and never made it to Eataly which is where this dish is from.  I absolutely love a good ravioli and apparently pansotti is the ravioli cousin.

This is a bit involved but it looks yummy!!!!!!!!

pansotti with walnut sauce
pansotti with walnut sauce

Pansotti is a stuffed ravioli-like pasta with origins in the Liguria region of Italy. This recipe comes to us from Chef Nicoletta Grippo of Eataly and was recently featured in an Eataly cooking class.

Serves 6-12

For the Pansotti:

  • Basic Egg Pasta Dough (see recipe)
  • or
  • 60 wonton wrappers

For the Stuffing:

  • 1 1/2 teaspoons extra virgin olive oil
  • 1 cup (about 2 medium-sized) leeks, whites only, washed well & minced
  • 4 cups spinach leaves, cleaned and steamed
  • 4 tablespoons fresh basil leaves, chopped
  • 1 pound fresh ricotta
  • 1/2 cup mascarpone
  • 1/4 cup Parmigiano Reggiano, freshly grated
  • 1/4 cup Pecorino Romano, freshly grated
  • 2 tablespoons fresh Italian parsley leaves, chopped
  • 1 large egg, beaten
  • Salt & freshly ground black pepper, to taste

For the Walnut Sauce:

  • 2 cups shelled walnuts
  • 1/4 cup extra virgin olive oil, infused with garlic
  • 1 cup heavy cream

To prepare the stuffing:

In a small casserole pan, heat the olive oil over a medium-low heat. Add the leeks and cook, stirring, until softened, about 3 minutes.  Stir in the basil, then increase the heat to medium. Season lightly with salt and pepper and cook, stirring, until the vegetables are tender and the liquid has evaporated, about 15 minutes. Allow the mixture to cool completely.

In a large bowl, combine the fresh ricotta, mascarpone, Pecorino Romano, Parmigiano Reggiano and parsley. Add the cooked spinach and season with salt and pepper. Stir in the beaten egg and mix well.

To assemble the pasta:

Roll out the pasta dough to the thickness of a lasagna sheet and cut to make 3-inch squares (or substitute wonton wrappers). Using a tablespoon, scoop and place the vegetable-cheese filling in the center of each cut square. Fold each square over to form a triangle and press the edges of the pansotti firmly to seal them tightly.

Arrange each pansotto in a single layer on baking sheets lined with lightly floured kitchen towels and cover them with additional towels until ready to cook.

To prepare the walnut sauce:

Combine the walnuts and garlic-infused olive oil in a food processor and process until a paste forms. Add water to the paste as needed. Spoon the paste into a bowl and add the cream. Beat thoroughly and season with salt and pepper to taste.

To serve the pansotti:

Bring a large pot of salted water to a boil. Add the pansotti to the water one at a time, stirring gently as you do. Cook until they rise to the surface and the edges are tender but still firm to the bite, about 6 minutes after the water returns to a boil. Remove the pansotti from the pot, draining well, and arrange them in layers in a deep serving dish, topping each layer with a healthy layer of the walnut sauce.

Welcome to Atlanta!

Welcome to Atlanta!
Welcome to Atlanta!

I know I have been saying I was going to get my blog together and commit to it for the last 2 years.  Well in that time I have had a baby, quit my job, and moved to Atlanta.  Now that I have moved, I think I might be able to get it together lol.  I’m not settled yet so I may be a bit sporadic until I get my schedule together.  I’m hoping sooner than later.  After all I have to find a Bikram yoga studio WITH childcare, I need to find a hair stylist, sign my youngest up for gymboree, map out all the cool parks by my house, and get the oldest into to his activity rounds.  I need to find the juice bars and 4 good take out restaurants, and get my garden together.  Then I will be settled lol.

Time to dive in!