While standing in line waiting for the bell to ring today, my son turns to me and says “Mom Lisa* wants to marry me”. So I told him that he can’t get married until he has a job and a master’s degree. I gave him a kiss and sent him on his way. While I was walking back home Lisa’s mom says “So Lisa says she wants to marry Agya” I told her that he did inform me of that and I told her what I told him. We chuckled a bit and then she says “Oh I’ve told Lisa no kissing at school”. That caught me a bit off guard and we said our goodbyes. When I got back in the house I just thought to my self HELL NAW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! No Way!! Really??? I have to talk to my 5 year old about kissing???????? Gross!
As a mother of a boy I am fully aware that I would have to talk to my son about what is and what is not appropriate to do with his penis, how he is supposed to treat women, and general guidelines in dealing with the opposite sex. I am semi mentally prepared for that. I did not expect to have any conversation remotely dealing with any of that until he was at least 12. Well guess whose the naked sheep not prepared for winter now!
While I do understand that at their age it’s not really a big deal. I think? I actually don’t really know. I just think it’s gross! Like I believe that they are just mimicking what they see adults do and it’s all very innocent but the thought of it just makes my stomach turn. Now when my son comes home instead of having our dance party I must have a sit down with him and talk to him about his feelings and what would make him want to kiss someone if he does. I don’t believe he does because he thinks kissing anyone other than me is gross however, I will have to ask. I will have to ask why someone would want to be his girlfriend and what that means. The thought of this conversation is blowing me. The fact that he will have his psych major mom inquiring about his feelings is going to blow him.
Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! I am just not ready for all of this.
I have never really been the book worm type per se. I love a good book and will read until my hearts content when I find them. I do not seek out good books and read for recreation. The last book I read was the 50 shades of grey series and I loved them!
I read to my son every night and consider myself to be a very good reader. I know now just because you can read doesn’t mean you can teach someone else how to. The kid and I have been working on our sight words and doing quite well. To give him some extra help I ordered the preschool prep sight words dvd series. We had previously used the preschool prep dvds when he was learning numbers, letters, and colors. They work wonders! When the kid was explaining to me the silent e song I was literally perplexed as to what he was talking about. We watched the song together and I was just like wow, I could not have explained that if you paid me!
There is another song that he sings about the letter “r” being in charge and again I was perplexed. It’s really fascinating to learn that even tho you can fully do something you have no idea how to explain it or why. I have no idea why some letters are silent and some are not, I don’t know what a double constant is, and I certainly can’t tell you why sometimes a “c” makes a “sss” sound and other times it makes a “k” sound. I don’t know kid, it just does is probably not going to help me help my son.
I can tie my shoes, I cannot explain to someone else how to tie shoes. I can do lots of things that I can’t explain the fundamentals for or explain to someone else how or why I can do them. This makes me feel like a smart dumb person. I really wished teachers were paid more, they are truly priceless! To every teacher who might read this, from a mother who realized that she really can’t teach her kid everything. I say THANK YOU!!!
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I am a HUGE Marvel comics fan and I exhibit teenage like behavior each time a new movie comes out. The Avengers and the X Men movies are hands down my favorites. I go the movies at midnight if I can to see them for opening day. I feel like I’m going to break out in hives if I don’t see it before Monday!
My son loves superheroes without questions. He loves spiderman, superman, batman and has never seen any of those movies. I had not let him watch any of the Marvel movies because I thought they were too violent. I left him at my sisters for a few days and when I picked him up he was quoting Iron Man and acting out scenes from the Avengers. This was about two years ago and started his obsession with iron man at the age of 3. He was Iron man for Halloween two years in a row. He has Iron man toys, he thinks any man with black hair and shades is Tony Stark and Jarvis lives in his room somewhere. I wasn’t to mad about that because now I have someone to geek out with who won’t judge me for wanting to dress up like Thor for the movie. Even tho he wouldn’t let me be Thor for halloween because I’m a girl and girls can’t be thor.
One day we sat down to have movie night and he wanted to watch the Avengers. Watching it with him I began to realize there was a lot of stuff in it I wasn’t really cool with him seeing. To many guns, and general violence. After that movie I said no more for him. As promo for Iron man 3 began to beef up he kept asking when we were going to see it and for a 5 year old I just couldn’t let it slide. I never took him to go see it even tho I went that Friday it came out:-)
Fast forward to Thor which is my favorite of all of the Avengers. I had decided not to let him see it, then a male friend of mine who was taking his son to see it helped me with a little perspective. Thor is very fictional and fights aliens and fictional character whereas the Avengers, Captain America, and Iron man fight the government or people so there are lots of actual guns and real people being killed and killing. He made sense so I let the kid go see Thor. It really was not that bad. There were definitely a few creepy looking things but the kid was really excited and enjoyed the movie. He slept soundly and happy that night.
I think the movie was awesome covered in artificial color free sprinkles!!!!!!!!!!!!
I realize that sometimes I just have to let my kid live a little. He is still not allowed to see the others but we did make some progress. I have alot further to go but I’m working on it. He’s not allowed to watch my little pony either so his tv/movie green light list is pretty narrow lololol.
I am always looking for things to entertain my child that require him to work, think, or run around until he is tired. We were in target this past weekend and he asked if he could get a toy. I told him he could get a science toy. We went into the very, very, very small science section of the store. We were able to find ONE science kit for his age group. ONE!
I am very happy we found it. The my first dino kit was priced at $9.99 I wasn’t to mad about it:-) Inside are three dinosaur activities. An excavation activity complete with goggles, and utensils. A growing dinosaur activity, and a glow in dark dinosaur skeleton. We started with the fossil finding excavation.
This activity literally took the kid over an hour and he had such a great time wetting the dirt and carefully digging out the dinosaur bones. I LOVED it! As a mom, giving my kid something to do for a full hour that he is engaged in and doesn’t require my help or participation is golden. He shrieked with excitement each fossil he found and chiseled out.
This activity is super messy. I didn’t realize that until after there was mud all over the only carpeted place in my house. I had him do it in my office so that I could see him if he needed help.
We didn’t do the other two yet we are going to save them for next week. If you see this kid in your local target, pick it up!!
I saw this video online and I totally had to post it. WOW. All I could say was WOW. For several reasons obviously. One being safety. This chicks got into a car with a guy they didn’t know from a can of paint because he had a Ferrari. Two, geez what kind of message does that send to the guys?? As the mom of a boy I hope my son never feels that money is the only way to pull chicks. Third, what does this say out us!! By us I mean females in general certainly not myself or most of the women I know:-)
So I’m a mom that believes a little cruelty for laughs is ok. Every year Jimmy Kimmel does a prank for parents to tell their kids they ate all of their halloween candy and the results are freakin hilarious! You have children who melt, children who scream, children who kick and hit their parents and children who are very forgiving.
Click on the picture to have a look see! The little girl in the pink and blue nightgown melts me. I felt so bad for her. However, I still laughed lol.
I’ve included the other two for your viewing pleasure:-)
I came across this video which I thought was funny and really interesting! It shows two sets of same gender proposals and lets children ages 5-13 watch the videos without any background as to what they are watching. It’s amazing to watch the children figure out whats going on and listen to their commentary. After the videos the children are asked a series of questions about their thoughts on gay marriage. After watching I wondered what my son knew about same gender relationships and same gender marriage. I was going to do the same experiment with my child then I realized, I cannot have a serious conversation with my son about anything except for legos. While he is 5, this would have totally went over his head and then I would have been called into school because he would call anyone who he saw dancing “gay marriage” while laughing hysterically. He still thinks marriage period is gross and when he sees people kiss on tv he makes fun of them says they are yucky. Maybe, I’ll try to discuss this with him next year:-)
Here is the video, take a look it’s definitely worth the watch. I do believe it’s best that WE talk to our children. If we don’t someone else will and what someone else tells your child may not be what you want them to know or may go against your beliefs. It’s the same way I feel about sex education YOU have to talk to your child about sex because if you don’t what they learn on their own may result in broken hearts, stds, or teenage pregnancy.